Worth is a hard one because as much as you can speak about it we all have different cultures and backgrounds. Worth looks different to us all. One underlining factor that follows with worth is that of dissatisfaction. A lot of us put our worth in academic achievement, money, jobs, beauty or people. When we fail to meet up to a standard we feel unfulfilled, useless and so many other negative emotions.
It is hard to see someone mentally beating themselves up because they have not met a standard, they or someone else has set for them. Life has turned into this massive competition where you must come up on top to have value. In perspective, it can be harsh and sad way to view live, it is so pressurising to always have to keep pushing yourself to meet a certain standard.
It is certainly important to work hard in life, but you should work hard at what you actually love to do. Sometimes the pressures we have come straight from home, your family may want you to pursue a certain career path because that is how you will earn money and be successful. I am not going to pretend I know what that feels like, but I do have sympathy for you. If you go against what your family want, then you feel you are dishonouring them. On the other hand, to pursue what they want can make you feel resentment and dissatisfaction.
Your worth and value is so important, and it should be vital that we all learn to put it in the right places. I used to put a lot of my worth in my weight, my academic achievement (which sucked because academia was never for me) and in how people viewed me. Honestly, it left me empty and unfulfilled. I would be so negative about myself that I was a stupid, fat and a loser. Which are just fantastic qualities to think about yourself! The world we live in, is so easy to give you a negative frame of mind because of its ideals on how to be truly successful and find your happiness. These ideals keep changing, they are so temporary and fleeting. It is not surprising that we have such a rise in anxiety and depression.
The one place that I truly find my worth is in my faith. For me, that is the truth that no one can take away for me. It is in the absolute truth that I get to believe if I want to. My faith tells me I am loved, I am accepted, I am fearfully and wonderfully made. The most beautiful and sacrificial act that took place was Jesus dying on a cross for the whole of humanity so that we would know how loved we are. John3:16 is probably one of the most churned out Bible verses but I pray that its truth would not be lost on any of us.
’For God so loved the world that he gave his one and only son that whoever believes in him shall not perish but have eternal life. For God did not send his Son into the world to condemn the world but to save the world through him.’
God honestly loves you so much for who you are.
All these things that you put your worth in are so fleeting. I truly believe that we were never meant to be shackled to money, jobs and people. If you are always left feeling dissatisfied at the end of the day, then you are not living with the purpose you were meant to. Pursue what you love, you do not have to be the best at it but if you are continuously giving it your all and finding enjoyment from it then that is living, that is where true worth comes from.
Some of you may not believe the same things I do, that is your own personal journey. I do believe that my faith enables me to step back from all the pressures that the world gives and enables me to pursue the things that I am doing. Sure, the journey is not plain sailing but by God’s grace everything falls into place in its time. Knowing that I am loved for who I am helps me to live with the freedom that I do not have to be accepted by everyone but if I am considerate and loving that is all that is important. I could not care if I do not look cool or fit in, I have spent many years being a people pleaser and it never gave any true fulfilment.
I really hope and pray that you would evaluate where you put your worth. That you would always pursue your passions. It may mean having to work jobs you are not always so fond of to have financial backing but if you constantly keep pursuing your passion for art, caring for people/animals, being a comedian, musician, writer, etc, that will fill you with your purpose and worth. Never give up on what you truly want to do, your worth should not be determined by your failures to get there. Worth should be determined on your constant pursuit of doing what you love and living in the freedom to do that.
For I know the plans I have for you, declares the Lord “plans to prosper you and not to harm you, plans to give you a hope and a future.”
Whether you believe in God or do not know that you have unique gifts and talents, that only you can give to the world. Do not let other people squash those down. Only you can do you, that is something that you need to remind yourself daily. Don’t live in other peoples’ shadows, you are too unique to do that. Learn to develop the skills and passions that you have, offer those to the world. It is a better perspective to have than chasing after meaningless gains, money can never buy happiness so make sure you pursue what truly does give you worth and happiness.