It’s not always easy to link your insecurities with your faith. Sometimes you can join up with Christian friends or in a church building and insecurities aren’t really talked about. It can be hard to know how to deal with it when sermons are based on mission or on how to build the church. I am quite a shy person so the idea of standing on a street corner handing out leaflets to bring people in, is not my idea of fun. I am happy to share my faith and support the church but there are other means by which I am more comfortable with.
One of the most inspiring talks I have heard on faith and insecurities is by Mark Hall from Casting Crowns. It is a talk which is full of determination and hope. He talks about his battles with dyslexia and ADHD and other struggles he overcame and deals with to be where he is today. He is a man who owns his insecurities and has not only allowed them to develop his faith but also himself as a person. He holds onto the verse found in 2 Corinthians 12:9 ‘But he said to me, “My grace is sufficient for you, for my power is made perfect in weakness.” Therefore I will boast all the more gladly about my weaknesses, so that Christ’s power may rest on me.’ That is an incredible truth to hold over your life, it is a prayer point to focus on. https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Ab8flhvMh58
One message you begin to grasp when you the read the Bible, especially the Gospels and also reading other books on putting your faith into action. Is just coming as you are. God does not need you to be the smartest person or the strongest person. Or whatever else you believe you need to be. All your insecurities, your fears and your sins. Bring them all to God as they are, no sugar coating. It is when we realise that it is all by grace we have been saved not by our own strength. Having faith does not mean that your weaknesses and insecurities vanish. It does help you to cope when you realise that your weaknesses and insecurities do not have to define you. I always like the verse in 1 Corinthians 1:27 ‘But God chose the foolish things of the world to shame the wise, God chose the weak things of the world to shame the strong.’ This verse gives me so much hope because I can come with my brokenness and insecurities and I am just accepted. God can use what I offer and doesn’t expect me to have everything and be able to do everything.
I truly believe that God gives you purpose, in a world that can so easily tear you down for not fitting into a mould. God doesn’t care about moulds, you only have to look at the backgrounds of the disciples. Please, don’t think you have to fake it until make it within your faith. That is not allowing you to be you and that is all God wants you to be.
A pressure that we feel from society is this ‘act’ of having it altogether. I call it an act because I do not believe that there is one person who truly has it altogether. They can fake it until they make it, but is that really a solution? Another question, is why do we have to have it altogether? It is so pressurising and it is just sad to see the amount of money and energy people waste on trying to have this perfect ‘ideal’. I also do not think we should wallow in our weaknesses and give up trying. No one wants to be an Eeyore.
In our lives it is learning to know our weaknesses, knowing where we need help but also remembering that weaknesses/insecurities make us human. In our weakness we also get to help others, it is so important within our society to learn from other people. Social media is an avenue to find people who are going through similar issues. However, as good as social media can be, it is a concern how quickly it is replacing the means of simple conversation. It is a recurring theme of how people are more willing to talk to people online rather than people around them.
As people we have to learn to be more open with other people. This isn’t something that is easily built into our culture. You only have to look at the British culture which emphasises the stiff upper lip. It is about having to learn acceptance and treating people for who they are. There is a series done by ‘BBC3’ you can find it on Youtube, entitled ‘Things not to say’. It looks at breaking the mould on what people generally think is acceptable to say to other people when it is not.
Weakness does have to be seen as a disadvantage, if we were all good at everything then it would be a pretty boring world. We also would not need to rely on others because we would be like our own god. Learning to be authentic takes time and it is also about making sure that you have the right people around you.
Please, do be careful in who you are willing to share with. Just because people act caring does not mean they have your best interest at heart. There are plenty of loving people in the world so do not be disheartened.
Encourage other people too, I am drawn to people who are just real about life. They are not ashamed of their struggles but they also have a beautiful story of growth.
Enjoy life. I could write a long list of the weaknesses and insecurities I have. Some of them did use to control life, it was my weaknesses that defined me. Now I choose to focus on what makes me happy and what gives me purpose. I try to always spread love and happiness where I go. To be kind and make people laugh. Though half the time I laugh more at my own jokes. I am also not afraid to talk about my weaknesses if it helps someone else to grow and accept theirs. I no longer wallow in my weaknesses but I do accept it is a part of me.
Your insecurities do not define you. You are a beautiful and creative person. Always live with hope and determination. Pursuing what you love.